So many times I have heard clients, family, friends, and random strangers recite the cliché, “it is what it is”, which can be a powerful statement on the acceptance of a situation. However, this statement is incomplete and often leaves the declarer a victim to whatever “it” is.
My marriage is on the rocks… It is what it is.
The tornado destroyed my house… It is what it is.
My bank account is empty… It is what it is.
I was diagnosed with cancer… It is what it is.
Regardless of the situation, we are still left with the freedom on how we will react. So, I believe the phrase should be re-written to include, “It is what it is, and how will I respond to this?” We may be a victim to a something, but that does not have to define us simply as a victim. Choose acceptance, which is different than approval, and then choose how you will respond.
How are you defined? ….by situations? …..or by how you deal with them?
It’s your life; it’s your choice.
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My philosophy is simple; your goal is my goal.
I work from a relational perspective that is similar to a trusted friend; we will laugh together, cry with each other, and maybe even be angry with each other. It is my belief that the interaction in the room will mirror how you address your relationships outside of therapy. Therefore, it is vital to engage in an authentic manner and not one that reflects a power differential.
I have a passion for working with end-of-life issues, grief and bereavement (loss comes in many forms beyond death), and for those that are trying to create a new sense of self. My experiences vary across many areas: working with hospice patients and their families, individuals with Parkinson's Disease and their families, court-mandated families, individuals with traumatic brain injuries, incarcerated individuals, couples, and many people that have just had enough of feeling inadequate and want more from their lives.
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